A expert professor, Gordon Flett of York University, describes perfectionist in this way:
“Perfectionism is the need to be – or to appear – perfect.
Perfectionists are persistent, detailed and organized high achievers.
Perfectionists vary in their behaviors: some strive to conceal their imperfections; others attempt to project an image of perfection.
But all perfectionists have in common extremely high standards for themselves or for others.”
As I am reflecting on who I am, I'm realizing that this deep desire to be, or rather appear perfect is actually prohibiting me from being exactly what I'm striving for. The issue that arises with this trait is that I tend to set up unrealistic expectations for myself because I feel that everything has to be in place before I can move forward with a project. This is what my old employer called "analysis paralysis". I'm constantly gathering, researching, and analyzing information that I create a state of paralysis because I've accumulated so much information I don't know where to begin.
Also, perfectionist are typically very self-critical. In my opinion, most things that I do aren't good enough. I'm trying to be the perfect woman, perfect believer, perfect lover, perfect friend, perfect business woman which is an impossible goal. I don't want to fail.......at anything. This of course is all a matter of perspective because failure is a part of the process. When you "fail", ideally you should focus on what you can learn from the situation to move forward versus putting your attention on the "failure" itself.