Monday, December 6, 2010

Friends or something else?

Hi friends,

I know it's been a while since I've posted anything.   I've simply been struggling with this blog.  I'm not really sure what direction to go with it.

 To give you all an update, I received an invitation from the ladies of Zeta Phi Beta for  a potluck night but I was unable to make it.  I haven't received any emails since then so I guess that means I'm no longer a prospective candidate for their organization......bummer!  J/K, my feelings aren't hurt.  It's actually probably for the best because I often prefer not being around people so I'm not sure that having to be committed to events is something I'd want to do.  

Let's see what else....oh, I feel compelled to share a story with you all.  My b/f probably won't approve but hey, I blog to share things.  Any here goes.  For the past few weeks he and I have been going back and forth about my choice of friends; they're male.   Now, I don't spend a lot of time with them but every now and then we'll get together.  Most recently we hung out and I told him about it after the fact.  To make a loooong story short, he feels that I have the veil of secrecy around my "so-called friends" (his term) because I don't include him when I hang with them.  Ok, first off that's not true, I invited him to come with me to a party and he specifically said, "I don't know those people!".   We ended up going but he didn't really want to stay...his version of what occurred that night is totally different.   There is at least one other occasion when I asked him to come out with me when I was meeting my friends. 

So as not to cause unnecessary problems in my relationship so I decided to have everyone over for dinner.  I asked him if he'd be okay with that, he said okay.  I texted all my friends to tell them about the dinner.  Out of 3 friends, 2 texted back saying yeah, the third never responded to my text at all.  The following day I tried again.  So here is the run down of how the day turned out.  The college grad had to work (understandable, gotta pay the bills, right?); the professional initially said he was down but apparently his lady had other plans for him; big brother never responded so he was probably snuggling with his honey; and my "friend" who jumped at the opportunity to hang out with me and indulge in my "culinary delights" chose not to show when he learned my boyfriend would be there.  It's such a sad commentary isn't it.  I have a group of friends that is causing a bit of strife in my relationship and I can't get them to respond to invitations nor do they have the courtesy of telling me they can't/won't/don't want to come.  Am I expecting more from these men than I should?   I understand that situations come up that are unforeseeable but common courtesy is all I ask of or woman.  If I can't get that from them is the friendship worth it at the expense of my relationship.   Someone please weigh in.  I'd really like to get opinions.

Until next time....

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